Ugh dating. This was the one thing I was really excited about, getting back into the dating scene after 8 years. Most of my 20's was spent with my ex, so now it was time to live. I was way to optimistic about it. First guy was great....at first. Like many they dazzle you with their words and talking of plans. I was still struggling with a custody agreement for my daughter and my ex was not being very cooperative. So having time alone wasn't always possible. It didn't last long,but left a lasting bad taste.
So I decided to join a datiing site. Not much luck to begin with. Met a few people, dated a couple. But just didn't find that right one. One was younger, after breaking it off I realized I liked the idea of him more than I liked him. Next one was more of a really good friend. I enjoyed spending time with him but again, there wasn't a spark. I chatted with a few men, at this point I had almost given up.
So I recieved a "wink" from a self proclaimed geek. Caught my attention and thought oh why not. So I winked back, we exchanged emails. We began im'ing every day. We learned we had a lot in common. Not everything but enough to make it interesting. I believe if two people have everything in common, then it can be boring. No one is bringing anything new to the table. We talked on the phone and decided to meet. The plan was dinner and a movie, if things were going well. We met at a local italian place. Had a nice dinner, it helped we were seated pretty well isolated from the rest of the patrons. We joked and talked. I felt very comfortable, too comfortable. Which worried me. I didn't get that spark. Then again I haven't gotten any spark from anyone. I was starting to worry that maybe all these years of being neglected in the matters of love, had left me numb. Just great, so I was doomed to be emotionless and to never have that feeling again. As this is running thru my mind he makes a comment that almost made me want to leave at that point. That all my pics on the dating site and Facebook were of neck up. I mean it was a good point, but hard to take a full body pic when i'm the one taking it on my phone. I didn't know what to do with this comment. Was he disappointed or was he being a smart ass. So I asked him if he was disappointed. His response was not in the least(by the way he is never living this conversation down....ever). The rest of the nite I stilled dwelled on that comment. Yes I realize there has to be some kind of physical attraction between two people and it plays a big role in a relationship. So we went to the movie. It was a good date movie. I of course tried playing hard to get. Hey if its not a challange then it wouldn't be any fun as I always say. After the movie, we talked for a couple of hours. Then it was time to part ways. At this point I still didn't know what to think. I was hopeful, but still pessimistic.
He invited me to a gathering at his place the next evening. I was skeptical, but agreed finally. I figured why not. It was nice meeting new people. Although some of the conversations were a bit over my head, he was very considerate of me and would explain further when needed. Later in the evening, after everyone had left, we decided to watch a movie. At this point I was still playing hard to get. Finally, and I mean finally, He made a move. And there it was, the spark!
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